Five Tips for Smart People in a Not-So-Smart World

Source: Pxhere, Public Domain

This is part of my series of tips for smart people. The others are Five Tips for Smart Job Seekers, and Ten Tips for Parenting a Smart Child. The final installment, Six Dating Tips for Smart People, will be published tonight, Jan 11, at around 9 PM Pacific.

My clients of high intellectual ability have benefited from these tips. They’re aimed at adults but may be relevant to children.

Allow visitors time for acclimatization. Let’s say a supervisee has come into your office. Or you’re meeting someone at a restaurant. Or s/he’s coming to your place for dinner. Most people need to slowly get comfortable: perceive the surroundings, figure out what to say, etc. As a quick thinker, you may do all that in seconds but, unless the person is of similar cognitive ability, they may need a minute or two to acclimate. So don’t jump to an issue that’s at all cognitively demanding until you sense the person is comfortable—that’s one of small talk’s purposes. It may be wise to let the other person take the lead so you can better sense when s/he has settled in.

Beware deep dives. Smart people tend to enjoy exploring a topic in depth but other people may find that boring or that you’re too intense. They may think or even say, “Can’t you relax for once and talk about pop culture, family, the upcoming vacation, sports, fashion, or how that political figure sucks?” Sure, you might try exploring a topic in some depth, but stay alert to people’s early signals of being turned off: wandering eyes, bored body language, silence, and, of course, if they change the topic. Perhaps save your deep dives for your intellectual peers and for your private explorations. For example, the Internet makes ocean-bottom dives so easy and fast.

Finding peers. It’s too self-absorbed for you to expect people to accommodate to your outlier ways of being. So a good chunk of your time should be spent with intellectually compatible spirits. Of course, in the job world that means working for organizations liberally laced with smart folks. You’re particularly likely to find them in high-tech, biotech, financial research firms, universities, and of course, think tanks. Outside of work, high concentrations of brainiacs exist in book clubs, high-level in-person and online courses, as strategic planners in political campaigns, mentoring or tutoring a gifted kid or adult, and in Mensa, the high-IQ society.

Hold your powder. In mixed-ability environments, you (or your high-ability child) may fall victim to ostracism or even bullying by people jealous, intimidated, or angered by having to confront their mind’s relative infertility. It’s noblesse oblige to restrain yourself from unnecessarily displaying your mind’s fecundity. Yes, bring up your good ideas but couch them in a face-saving way, for example, “Perhaps this might work. Insert the idea. What do you think?” And, where honestly possible, acknowledge others’ contributions. That can be as simple as, “Good thought.”

Have stimulation sources at the ready. While everyone needs downtime, high-ability people have an above-average need for intellectual stimulation. Of course, there’s no need to always rely on others for that. Keep with you one or more sponge activities (activities to sponge up life’s many bits of unallocated time), for example, that book or audiobook you downloaded from the library onto your phone or Kindle. Also, always have a stimulating side project that’s related to work or not: conduct research on a work topic of interest, develop an app, write a one-person show, create a one-minute fundraising video for your favorite cause, craft letters to the editor, work on a thorny life problem that you or a friend is facing, such as how to find good housing cheap or how to find the wisest uses of your charity dollars.

Being a high-ability person in a mixed-ability world isn’t as easy as the average person thinks it is. Perhaps one or more of these tips will help.

I read this article aloud on YouTube.


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s