Let me set the stage. Your husband, wife, partner, girlfriend or boyfriend arrives late and you are pissed. You promptly tell how mad you are and why and they become defensive. Their lame excuse makes you even more furious and before you know it your either fighting like heavyweight champs or taking a vow of silence for days.
Either way, its miserable.
Good news! Three simple steps can help you avert most of these battles, or, at least, reduce the intensity.
1. Ask permission before the discussion.phrase in a non attacking way
4. Agree to ask permission to give a suggestion
5. Affirm and reinforce.