Taking a position on the national crisis of separating children from their parents at the border should be easy. Yet in our increasingly polarized society, many are getting caught up in another both-sides kind of argument. As a nurse, family and school counselor–never mind as a mother–I can tell you one thing is crystal clear: early interpersonal relationships between parents and children are the single most protective factor in shaping highly functioning children, teenagers, and later adults.
With all the news stories out there, here’s my attempt to pull together some key facts with sourcing so that you can use your head, heart, and hands to support families. We have to have hope.
you have to understand,
that no one puts their children in a boat
unless the water is safer than the land. — Warsan Shire
What you need to know
— Crossing the border illegally is a misdemeanor for which this administration is choosing to separate parents from their children as young as infants. The Trump administration implemented this policy by choice and could end it by choice. No law or court ruling mandates family separations.
— Children are processed through the Department of Homeland Security and then transferred to care under the department of Health and Human Services. Agents say there is no interagency process for keeping track of which children belong to specific parents. There is no current process for reuniting parents and children.
— The laity and clergy of the United Methodist Church issued a complaint against Jeff Sessions for this policy, charging him with child abuse, immorality, racial discrimination, and dissemination of doctrines contrary to the standards of doctrine of the United Methodist Church.
Why you should care
— Research has demonstrated a strong relationship between ACEs and a variety of substance-use disorders and other maladaptive behaviors such as increased risk of suicide attempts, lifetime depressive episodes, sleep disturbances, sexual risk behavior, and teen pregnancy.
—Because they are human beings. They are families. They are all of our children—
What can you do
Lynne Griffin is the author of the parenting guides, Let’s Talk It: Adolescent Mental Health and Negotiation Generation. She is also the author of the family-focused novels, Girl Sent Away, Sea Escape, and Life Without Summer. You can find her online at her website, or follow her on Twitter and Facebook.