How to Make Sure He’s Not Just a One-Night Stand

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If you still believe that opposites attract…that’s not what social scientists say. 

This myth actually started in the fabulous fifties, by sociologist Robert Francis Winch, who argued:

Based on his studies of spouses, he suggested that individuals would be attracted to others who possess personality traits that they lack. An assertive woman, for example, would be attracted to a submissive man while an extroverted man would be attracted to an introverted woman.

(Is anyone else a little bit turned on by this?)

The article goes on to say:

As it turns out, there is almost no evidence to support this hypothesis. Studies of friends and spouses consistently find that two individuals are more likely to be friends and spouses if they are similar in terms of their personalities.

A new study looked at how people interact online, based on their Likes and other giveaways. Over 45,000 people proved that we like others like ourselves.

And then, of course, there is the older couple growing to look like each other. Couples may start to look like each other because in some ways they already are like each other!

Psychology Today chimes in:

When subjects were asked to rate the portrayed people for attractiveness, they usually picked the people who were an amalgamation of a stranger and themselves,

Or chose people who looked like their parents. Now, THAT’S familiar!

From these studies, one might conclude that the best way to find your next love, or lover might be….to be friends with him first.

It’s a risk, but your call.

What do you think? Do opposites attract, or not?


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