If a contraceptive method is 90 percent effective, some people believe it fails 10 percent of the time, that they’re fated to get pregnant one out every 10 times they have sex using it. Actually, this is not the case.
Birth control effectiveness rates are based on “100 couple-years of regular use.” A “couple-year” represents one couple using the method exclusively for one year. If a method is 90 percent effective, ten pregnancies can be expected among 100 couples who use it for twelve months. Assuming sex once a week, 100 couples would make love 5,200 times per year, and experience 10 pregnancies, or one pregnancy every 520 times—or around two tenths of 1 percent of rolls in the hay. Ninety percent effectiveness isn’t perfect, but it’s quite effective.
In addition, effectiveness is often expressed as two figures—theoretical effectiveness assuming perfect use, often very high, and actual effectiveness based on decades of studies that have tracked couples’ actual experiences with sometimes less-than-perfect use, often considerably lower.
Many people get scared when they see that condoms’ actual use-effectiveness is only 82 percent. That’s still quite effective. Those 100 imperfect couples who make love 5200 times a year could be expected to have 18 pregnancies, one every 289 times, or around three tenths of 1 percent of romps—still pretty effective.
Meanwhile, studies of condoms’ actual use-effectiveness include trials whose subjects were naïve teens unfamiliar with condoms who attempted to use them while drunk. If you’re more mature, more sexually experienced, and more familiar with condoms, your personal use-effectiveness may not quite get up to this method’s theoretical effectiveness of 98 percent, but it’s quite likely to be pretty close.
The figures below come from the bible of birth control, Contraceptive Technology (20thedition, 2015) by Robert Hatcher et al.
Most people are unaware that there are almost two dozen different methods. For individual counseling about all of them, and to obtain the one that works best in your relationship, visit a family planning clinic. Most county health departments around the U.S. provide contraceptive services. In addition, Planned Parenthood operates more than 600 family planning clinics around the U.S—ppfa.org.
Methods are listed from least to most technological.
Contraceptive Effectiveness (in 100-couple-years)
No contraception 15% effective
Sex, no intercourse 100%
Calendar rhythm 70-85%
Condom for men 82-98%
Condom for women 79-95%
Spermicides Alone, 72-94%. With condoms, up to 98%.
Vaginal film Alone, 75-94%. With condoms up to 97%.
Cervical cap No kids, 80-90%. Mothers, 60-80%.
Fertility awareness 80-99%
Birth control pills 95-99+%
Evra patch 98-99%
Post-coital First 24 hours, 95%. After 72 hours, 89%.
Male sterilization 99+%
Female sterilization 99+%
Men Who Want Great Sex MUST Participate Fully in Birth Control
Great sex requires deep relaxation. If you’re not trying to conceive a child, it’s impossible for the vast majority of women—and many men—to relax when they feel anxious about unplanned pregnancy.
Great sex also requires trust. The vast majority of women—and many men—can’t trust a lover who doesn’t care enough about unplanned pregnancy to discuss contraception beforehand.
Finally, great sex requires leisurely, playful, whole-body massage, which allows plenty of time to discuss contraception—and do something about it.
Contraception is the couple’sresponsibility, not the woman’s. Raise the issue as soon as things begin to heat up. Unless you make love without intercourse (genital massage, oral, toys) or use condoms, the two of you should visit a family planning clinic, learn each method’s pros and cons, and decide which one best suits your needs—then use your chosen method every time.
Most people consider condoms the only “men’s” method, and all the others “women’s.” In fact, many contraceptives can be shared—and they work best when both lovers are involved. Sex without vaginal intercourse is a completely shared method. Women can roll condoms onto men’s erections. Men can buy spermicide for diaphragms, and load them. And men can check for IUD strings, and with fertility awareness, help women chart their menstrual cycles.
Birth control is not the easiest subject to discuss, particularly for new lovers. But it’s easier than talking about sexual frequency or the moves you want in bed. Considering contraceptives can be excellent practice for negotiating more challenging sexual issues.
Discussing contraception doesn’t interfere with sexual pleasure any more than slowing down for a turn interferes with enjoyment of driving. Acting responsibly about birth control reduces stress, encourages deep relaxation, fosters intimate communication, and builds trust—all of which enhance lovemaking.