Forbidden Fruit: Wanting Someone you Cannot Have

Crushing on Someone You Shouldn’t? Have you ever found yourself fantasizing about someone you shouldn’t be thinking about in that way? Or maybe you just look forward to the days when you’ll be around a particular person – maybe it’s at meetings with an attractive coworker, dropping off your child at soccer practice and chatting … Continue reading Forbidden Fruit: Wanting Someone you Cannot Have

Love is in the Air . . . or the App

LOVE IS IN THE AIR --- OR THE APP Valentine’s month and love is in the air - well the app - the dating app.  Meeting that special someone is no longer an organic process.  Clients rant that they are lonely, cannot find anyone, have to go through a social media dance of endless texts … Continue reading Love is in the Air . . . or the App

Delegating Your Way Out of Family Dysfunction

Family dysfunction is not a problem; it’s an opportunity. It becomes a problem when families get stuck in patterns of behavior beyond the initial adaptive phase and their members descend into self-defeating or harmful behaviors. Before that point, I prefer to call them stress-adapted families because they have responded to a situation with the best … Continue reading Delegating Your Way Out of Family Dysfunction

Toxic Childhood? 5 Spiritual Exercises to Heal the Soul

Source: Photograph by Jessica Arends. Copyright Free. Unsplash For the last two decades, I’ve turned my attention to the mother-daughter relationships in all of its iterations but with a specific focus on the damage done to a daughter when a mother is unloving, emotionally distant, self-involved, controlling. hypercritical, or dismissive. At a glance, this work … Continue reading Toxic Childhood? 5 Spiritual Exercises to Heal the Soul

Why We Put Our 5th Grader in Advanced Math Classes

A common trend in education these days has been moving kids through math and reading/ELA/English courses faster. It’s not uncommon for a middle schooler to be taking high school credits. I’ve even seen some middle schoolers working on COLLEGE credit courses. As a teacher, I have seen the stress that this puts on kids and … Continue reading Why We Put Our 5th Grader in Advanced Math Classes

No More Fake Repairs

Learn the Tool of Repair Source: energepic/Pexels Saying sorry after a thoughtless comment, apologizing for how someone else feels, or avoiding hurt you caused, leaves the relational bond you have with others, damaged. The relational bond, an invisible tether that keeps people connected, is durable and resilient, yet needs to be maintained on a consistent … Continue reading No More Fake Repairs