Source: U.S. Navy, Public Domain We tend to donate our time and money to “the least among us.” But if the goal is to make the biggest difference, we might want to focus on people with unusually good potential to profit. My favorite example: Mentor or fund the mentoring of a kid(s) from families with … Continue reading Mentoring a Gifted Child
Source: rawpixel/Pexels I've lived my twenties as a part-time nomad, flip-flopping between New York City and Washington DC, wandering around Haiti for two summers, and spending 6 months in Trinidad and Tobago. I settled in Atlanta for my first job as a college professor. What I was most anxious about during all of these trips … Continue reading Secrets to Making Friends as an Adult
Anger is a deeply complex emotion, with many layers, intensities, and reasons for it, some which sort of make sense (you smack your thumb with a hammer while hanging a picture) and some that definitely don’t (you smack your spouse or partner because he or she burned the meatloaf). Turned inward, anger can lead to … Continue reading Anger Management or Anger Mastery?
Being alone means different things to different people. For some, it's a time to pursue one's own interests, to be productive or engage in self-care, a chance to focus on friends or family, a choose-your-own adventure opportunity. For others, the idea of being alone is terrifying. What does being alone mean to you? A deep-seated … Continue reading Are You Afraid of Being Alone?
Source: Pexels, Public Domain The concept I've learned in school that has most affected my day-to-day thinking is Kohlberg's six stages of moral development. At the highest stage, decisions are based on what's universally, cosmically, wisest. This article encourages you to do the same. Many people make decisions based heavily on what will give them … Continue reading Thinking Cosmically
Jim cancelled the order for a new washer and dryer. I contacted a friend 1800 miles away who was looking for a roommate. I called a colleague who is a marriage and family therapist and asked her if she could recommend a couples’ counselor in our area. Her referral was an Emotionally-Focused Therapist and … Continue reading Love in Spite of Us
You’re speaking to someone you don’t know that well, and much to your chagrin, this person enters into a small tirade about your many flaws. Although you normally feel confident in your sense of self, this little attack leaves you feeling that something must be pretty wrong about yourself. As you’re forced to endure this … Continue reading What Makes Some People so Insensitive?