When One Relationship Partner Is More Interested

When one person is more interested in the relationship than the other, troublesome power imbalances are common. Source: Kane Lynch, used with permission. Recently I encountered a relationship situation that brought to mind the principle of least interest and what it telegraphs about relationships where one partner is far more interested than the other. It’s an old … Continue reading When One Relationship Partner Is More Interested

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What is New Relationship Energy and How to Deal with It?

Polyamorists have a penchant for making up words to describe their experiences, in part because common use languages often lack words sufficient to encompass the range of interactions and emotions present in poly relationships. One of the terms English-speaking poly folks have coined is New Relationship Energy, which they usually abbreviate to NRE. Image: Two … Continue reading What is New Relationship Energy and How to Deal with It?

50 Ways You’re Overfunctioning for Others

Source: Canva When anxiety hits, our brain often turns on its autopilot. We find the quickest way to calm ourselves and everyone else down. For many people, the fastest strategy is to become over-responsible for family, friends, colleagues, and even strangers.  Overfunctioning for others can be effective at managing anxiety or tension, but it can prevent … Continue reading 50 Ways You’re Overfunctioning for Others

Unloved Daughters and the Problem of Unmet Goals

Source: Photograph by Fotografielink. Copyright free. Pixabay Because it’s easier to brush off a toxic childhood and normalize it—that way we can tell ourselves that“the past is the past” and we can congratulate ourselves for surviving it—than it is to confront it, we often fail to see how the past insinuates itself into the present. … Continue reading Unloved Daughters and the Problem of Unmet Goals

Unloved Daughters and the Problem of Unmet Goals

Source: Photograph by Fotografielink. Copyright free. Pixabay Because it’s easier to brush off a toxic childhood and normalize it—that way we can tell ourselves that“the past is the past” and we can congratulate ourselves for surviving it—than it is to confront it, we often fail to see how the past insinuates itself into the present. … Continue reading Unloved Daughters and the Problem of Unmet Goals

Clearing

Source: Free-Photos/Pixabay Linda: Clearing is a term that describes the process of coming to terms with our own anger without ever speaking to the other person. By developing methods to free ourselves from carrying the anger, we feel lighter and our relationship improves. One method of clearing is putting the issue in perspective by seeing that … Continue reading Clearing